A rant against men

I know, I know, but I can't help it. I was listening to NPR (if you don't know what that stands for, stop reading now and delete my blog from your Favorites List) this morning on my way into the office. There was story after story containing bits about men and their total lack of self control when it comes to sex.

Have you ever seen a dog eat until it pukes? That's what I think of when I am faced with men and their affairs. Don't get me wrong, women have extra-marital affairs, too. But FAR less often than men. It's almost like these men lose all reason and intelligence. There is no self-control, no self-respect and a total cave-in to an action so beneath the realm of acceptability that it boggles my mind.

Everyone makes mistakes, right? Get real. It's not a mistake. It's a choice and a very, very bad one. A mistake is going to work in one black shoe and one navy shoe. Crossing the line of acceptable relationship behavior is a choice.

So, what did I hear on NPR to start this tirade? There are special elections in New York and Nevada because the elected leaders had to resign amid news of marital indiscretions. I wonder how much this is costing those states, and do the resigning men have to reimburse the amount? Hell no. Dominique Strauss-Kahn, previous head of the IMF (if you don't know what this one is, I'll let you slide), had to resign because of a sexual assault charge. Never mind that it was dropped, because he had already admitted to a previous affair with a subordinate. Now, thank God, a woman is in charge. I'll bet she will be able to control her animalistic sexual urges AND better guide the organization.

So, why does this happen? Take the "grass is always greener on the other side" ideology. Please see the photo above to get an idea as to the extent cows (men) will go to get to the other side of the fence (women). He has to strain, reach, finagle, and sometimes get stuck to get there. Is it worth it?  Doesn't the grass actually taste, look and feel the same? Is the cow disappointed when it turns out to be the same? Does he even notice?

I wonder if it ever occurs to the cow (man) that the grass may LOOK greener because he is looking at the grass. On his own side of the fence (his woman), he sees the weeds, rocks, and thistles in the grass, but does he ever really see the grass? He sees the work that he will have to do to make his grass pretty like the other grass. The grass that he wants is the grass that he doesn't have to tend.

Now we get to the heart of the matter. Why do men have affairs? Because they are selfish and lazy. They don't want to work to make their own relationships healthy, vibrant, rich and satisfying. A man who cheats wants a beautiful relationship, with none of the work. It is very distasteful to me. Almost repugnant.

The man who tends his own field, with his wife tending it beside him, is the man who lives longer, is more fulfilled, sleeps well at night, and is satisfied at the end of his life.

On a lighter note, have you noticed the number of widows who remarry compared with widowers? When I have asked widows if they plan to date and perhaps eventually remarry their answer is almost always the same, "Good grief, no! Why would I want to spend the rest of my golden years taking care of some old, needy man?" HA!